What l have always thought was Love has been messing parts of my wellbeing.(l am not talking about intimate love) .Relationship loves in my daily life as a parent sister, friend, relative, co-worker or new found love.l can no longer accept my old false beliefs about a love that confuses being misused,dominated and manipulated as caring and sharing.A love that drain’s one slowly but surely.With all due respect ,l am fed up of learning the truth after the fact of hurt and burnout.What is Love?Love is freedom. Love is loving The Most High, Ngai wakwa ,my Source of life first. Secondly Love is embracing ,and cherishing with gratitude myself. Kujieshimu na Kujipenda ;”Self-Love”means l am no longer accepting the things l can not change such as people’s habits and behaviours that are harmful to my sanity.l am changing the things l can not accept any more in my life such as my illogical self-criticisms. Kujidharu ,founded on my wrong judgements.l intend to love myself unconditionally through self-care in all areas of my life: the physical, emotional,financial,and spiritual. I recognize my duty from Source and l will be very deliberate unapologetically in exercising it.A great promise is written down for me too l claim. “For l know the plans l have for you “declares The Lord.”Plans to prosper you and not to harm you….”.