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Be Empathic :Here & Now

The time to be empathic is here and now.Start today by opening your heart to the idea

What Are The Needs?

  • The Majority of us are very Opinionionated.Many are shouting loudly and proudly.A few timidly play neutral ,contributing nothing ,and hoarding information.The other larg larger group are destroyers and hate speech and criticism about anything and everything is their creative style.None of these ways are what we need.
  • We are a Hurting People.We are stressed out financially in debts or joblessness.Emotionally in unhealthy relationships.Physically ,having nothing to do ,or too much to do.There is  greater need for people to be heard and helped.Empathy is the answer in the short term.
  • Our Needs and Experiences Are Different.We are all living on the  same planet,but in our work or lives we are dealing each with their own specific situation.As a community we need to pay more attention to specific issues about each need.
  • The Future is uncertain.This is true now with the global pandemic.The social media and breaking news keeps everybody with a lot of speculations and heresay.This lack of uncertainty leads to stress,more struggles,worries,anxiety and fear,confirming there is a need for greater empathy.

What Can You Do Now?

Pick a part of yourself as a leader,team member,parent,spouse or sibling and start the following practices.

  • RECOGNIZE THE NEED:look at the people around you,what is driving their need for your empathy?
  • LISTEN MORE:Listen much more effectively ,consciously and consistently.Instead of feeling guilty ,just start today!
  • STOP ASSUMING AND START ASKING:-When we assume we know how people feel or what they are thinking,we do not then ask.The empathic relationship building begins by  asking.(…and it is not about proving assumptions right anyway.
  • ACKNOWLEDGE ;DO NOT JUDGE:-None of that matters.Sincere empathy comes from us understanding where the other person is at that point in time.Judgement has no place in the equation.Period!Do not even try to solve anything for them….at least not yet.FOCUS on letting them know they have been HEARD.
  • GRANT PEOPLE GRACE:-
  • You have recognized their stress,struggle,worry,grant them grace.
  • Since you know what they are dealing with you can make more sense of their behaviors,results  and decisions.
  • Now is your chance to grant some grace ,be patient and understanding.
  • You are not lowering your standards at all.Only for today a different approach is needed or appreciated.
  • THIS IS EMPATHY IN ACTION:
  • FOCUS ON FEELING:-Our tendency is usually to be tactical and efficient
  • .Our conversations are usually around goals and tasks.
  • To overcome try starting by talking .Discuss how people are doing;their Thoughts and Feelings.
  • This change will bring you a chance to have better,more empathic conversations .
  • The chats will in turn create more opportunities to apply the other ideas above.
  • Let it become a normal relationship process wherever you are called to lead

Think About It For A Moment.

The Need for Empathy Is So Evident Here and Now.

 

(Gratitude to  Article & Power points notes from The Age of Empathy

by Kevin Eikenberry.)

 

 

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Understanding Who am l?

There is a big difference between Knowing and Accepting. It has taken me years and many hours  of questioning myself

“Who am l?”.

Today,l woke up resolved to solving this imbalance. The first wave were prodding questions:What is bothering me? Why do l judge myself so harshly? Why can l not be enough ?Why do l treat myself in such an unloving manner?Why do l over-think?Why am l drawn to other people`s schedules? Is it possible for me to set my specific-to-me menu, a plan so l can be at my best at any given moment ?

Suddenly it was clear.Dawn broke for me.I made up my mind there and then to start living by my own rules. To move in this space called the Earth grateful to The Most High .The answer was clear.I was created whole but l have sub-divided myself.I have been my worst own enemy ,and l agree.All this questions were self-created problems,for l have the answer in the very life l am.

“Who am l?”l am here enough !I am here,no less than enough ! A child of The Universe. In the here , now, and Something or someone awaits  for my love and careful attention.I am in tune with the vortex of my vibration, and the positive energy in everything there is.The key turned,the door just opened wide, the  pathway is lit, and every present  moment is valid.

Yes,this is it! The knowing .The living ,breathing ,appreciating , listening and hearing every sound this wonderful moment.The slight breeze,sounds from the small unseen creatures. Leaves stretching out. Trees swinging .Whispering croaking,crowing,buzzing sounds .Darkness fading ,sun rising .A beautiful day is born,and l with it.My present chore is to type these  thoughts, for l know the words are from a purposeful place.”l am not a mistake !never was, never will be.”

I yield to The Universe.The Source will guide and provide for  me.There is much to do,my kind deeds are awaited,by another lost soul like l was.

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Follow Your Gaze

You have to follow the Gaze.You know what you want.Basically,we all want the Best for us.The Problem arises because we do not trust ourselves enough to think we have a solution. The Solution is not visible because we spend too much of our time and energy in Comparison Mode .This sucks up our energy from that which we can naturally resonate with.We get too distracted,lose confidence in and direction in the process. We reach confusion point, having an internal war from within.To cool it off we go into denial and slowly move into self-destructive habits. We have all been there in different ways.If this is you today,you do not have to stay there.Now is the hour to change!Make a conscious decision to seriously follow your gaze,online and offline, those or that ,which Builds You.Be Cautious of the time, money and energy spent in your interactions. It MUST Be for your Benefit first.This is the only way you can give others your Best because you are at Your Best.It is not always about finances ,or material things,it is All about what you do with what you have NOW! Feed your inner you with the Best for the Best reasons.

If you read to the End l know something ticked you,Go for it!Don’t question it!Follow your gaze!❤

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What Do l Want?

What do l want for me,….for you?What l  want is more than a wish, much more than a desire ,it is a life-string. A string tied strongly ,unbreakable,  to mental , physical and spiritual wellbeing. A life that is financially stable. A sober mind that can create wealth so as to have a solid roof over my head, a daily meal, medical care and education  for my family, and a secure and friendly,helpful, community .l also want healthy work and family relationships. I want to be involved in society productive projects that cater for a much more cleaner environment on our planet.

I want dignity to be the key in the way we communicate with one another.Nations where leaders and all those in positions of power listen in order to understand the grassroot problems, and they also perceive  their positions as being persons of service. As an individual, l want to be free and responsible . l want to be consciously aware at all times, that my actions today have  either negative or positive consequences and that they affect not only me but the whole. world.Hence, l want   joyful experiences during  my lifetime. I believe this is What We All Want:-,,Pleasant Experiences”. This means being heard, included,acknowledged,appreciated, and above all this not lacking . A dignified life-string follows the golden principle at all times, regardless and says;”l Do Unto Another  As l Would Want It Done Unto Me”.It is a universal-inclusion vision and mission.

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Perception=Reality

Did you know that your perception gathers a lot of evidence to make beliefs right?

Do you know that your stronger than you think ,if only you could give yourself permission to see the brighter side of life?

If my perception of life is Good things can come from a Bad situation then Fear erodes and what happens is ,,Death,,becomes an inevitable part of life and not an accident,,,or maybe if l had….kind of blame .

I might not be making sense but the fact is we are here for s short spell.Let’s live consciously responsible about ourselves,what we say and do to others.Above all ,,Do Not Be Afraid ,l Am With You;Do Not Be Terrified,l Am Your God”

(Isaiah 41:10a)

Trusting good times will come after the bad times for everybody!