an encounter with God, Self-Therapy, Uncategorized

Because It’s Time

What l have always thought was Love has been  messing parts of  my wellbeing.(l am not  talking about intimate love) .Relationship loves in my daily life as a parent sister, friend, relative, co-worker or new found love.l can no longer accept my old false beliefs about a love that confuses being misused,dominated and manipulated as caring and sharing.A love that drain’s one slowly but surely.With all due respect  ,l am fed up of learning the truth after the fact of hurt and burnout.What is Love?Love is freedom. Love is loving The Most High, Ngai wakwa ,my Source of life first. Secondly Love is embracing ,and cherishing with gratitude myself. Kujieshimu na Kujipenda ;”Self-Love”means l am no longer accepting the things l can not change such as people’s habits and behaviours that are harmful to my sanity.l am changing the things l can not accept any more in my life such as my illogical self-criticisms. Kujidharu ,founded on my wrong  judgements.l intend to love myself unconditionally through self-care in all areas of my life: the physical, emotional,financial,and spiritual. I recognize my duty from Source and l will be very  deliberate unapologetically in exercising it.A great promise is written down for me too l claim. “For l know the plans l have for you “declares The Lord.”Plans to prosper you and not to harm you….”.

(Jeremiah 29:11)

Liberating Love.

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A life cause from a loss.

Every day is an exceptional day .All our lives are  neither stagnant nor separated.We are in motion , constantly in the process of Birthing -Living-Creating-Dying and then Re-birthing ,from generation to generation.  Life is also creative in it’s duality as we at times experience periods of severe trials  ,mild challenges and other unforseen obstacles.On other occassions, we  celebrate with music, song and dance, innovate and  achieve our goals.This last week was exceptionally sad for most of my friends , having lost two loved ones. It brought back sweet,sad memories of my late mother Grace Nduta Gathea (+1981) .May all those gone before us continue to rest in eternal peace. As l prayed ,l was reminded that loss can become more bearable if we can take moments to reflect on how abundantly they served on earth.Their smiles,love and helpful attitudes can give us  more clarity.If we stop,listen, open our eyes and hearts,we will be able to see where we can contribute to finish  the work they left behind.There is more than enough awaiting all of us to act upon and share.My mother’s legacy motivates me to bring awareness about  the tyrannical menace of domestic violence and abuse.This is a global crisis that has not been given enough recognition.l know it requires courage but it is possible with strength from The Divine. Crisis:Homes are the first earthly ground for all toddlers.Unless we accept and act on the fact that most witnesses to domestic violence are innocent toddlers and children ,we will never know peace as adults. Moving in life as a child witness,adult victim of this oppression l am determined to give it my all as a legacy gift to my mother who underwent so much domestic violence despite the outward courage she portrayed.It destroyed her in the end.

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an encounter with God, Invisible Migrants, Self-Therapy, Uncategorized, unmasking domestic violence

Be Empathic :Here & Now

The time to be empathic is here and now.Start today by opening your heart to the idea

What Are The Needs?

  • The Majority of us are very Opinionionated.Many are shouting loudly and proudly.A few timidly play neutral ,contributing nothing ,and hoarding information.The other larg larger group are destroyers and hate speech and criticism about anything and everything is their creative style.None of these ways are what we need.
  • We are a Hurting People.We are stressed out financially in debts or joblessness.Emotionally in unhealthy relationships.Physically ,having nothing to do ,or too much to do.There is  greater need for people to be heard and helped.Empathy is the answer in the short term.
  • Our Needs and Experiences Are Different.We are all living on the  same planet,but in our work or lives we are dealing each with their own specific situation.As a community we need to pay more attention to specific issues about each need.
  • The Future is uncertain.This is true now with the global pandemic.The social media and breaking news keeps everybody with a lot of speculations and heresay.This lack of uncertainty leads to stress,more struggles,worries,anxiety and fear,confirming there is a need for greater empathy.

What Can You Do Now?

Pick a part of yourself as a leader,team member,parent,spouse or sibling and start the following practices.

  • RECOGNIZE THE NEED:look at the people around you,what is driving their need for your empathy?
  • LISTEN MORE:Listen much more effectively ,consciously and consistently.Instead of feeling guilty ,just start today!
  • STOP ASSUMING AND START ASKING:-When we assume we know how people feel or what they are thinking,we do not then ask.The empathic relationship building begins by  asking.(…and it is not about proving assumptions right anyway.
  • ACKNOWLEDGE ;DO NOT JUDGE:-None of that matters.Sincere empathy comes from us understanding where the other person is at that point in time.Judgement has no place in the equation.Period!Do not even try to solve anything for them….at least not yet.FOCUS on letting them know they have been HEARD.
  • GRANT PEOPLE GRACE:-
  • You have recognized their stress,struggle,worry,grant them grace.
  • Since you know what they are dealing with you can make more sense of their behaviors,results  and decisions.
  • Now is your chance to grant some grace ,be patient and understanding.
  • You are not lowering your standards at all.Only for today a different approach is needed or appreciated.
  • THIS IS EMPATHY IN ACTION:
  • FOCUS ON FEELING:-Our tendency is usually to be tactical and efficient
  • .Our conversations are usually around goals and tasks.
  • To overcome try starting by talking .Discuss how people are doing;their Thoughts and Feelings.
  • This change will bring you a chance to have better,more empathic conversations .
  • The chats will in turn create more opportunities to apply the other ideas above.
  • Let it become a normal relationship process wherever you are called to lead

Think About It For A Moment.

The Need for Empathy Is So Evident Here and Now.

 

(Gratitude to  Article & Power points notes from The Age of Empathy

by Kevin Eikenberry.)

 

 

an encounter with God, Self-Therapy, The Unheard/Unseen, Uncategorized

Understanding Who am l?

There is a big difference between Knowing and Accepting. It has taken me years and many hours  of questioning myself

“Who am l?”.

Today,l woke up resolved to solving this imbalance. The first wave were prodding questions:What is bothering me? Why do l judge myself so harshly? Why can l not be enough ?Why do l treat myself in such an unloving manner?Why do l over-think?Why am l drawn to other people`s schedules? Is it possible for me to set my specific-to-me menu, a plan so l can be at my best at any given moment ?

Suddenly it was clear.Dawn broke for me.I made up my mind there and then to start living by my own rules. To move in this space called the Earth grateful to The Most High .The answer was clear.I was created whole but l have sub-divided myself.I have been my worst own enemy ,and l agree.All this questions were self-created problems,for l have the answer in the very life l am.

“Who am l?”l am here enough !I am here,no less than enough ! A child of The Universe. In the here , now, and Something or someone awaits  for my love and careful attention.I am in tune with the vortex of my vibration, and the positive energy in everything there is.The key turned,the door just opened wide, the  pathway is lit, and every present  moment is valid.

Yes,this is it! The knowing .The living ,breathing ,appreciating , listening and hearing every sound this wonderful moment.The slight breeze,sounds from the small unseen creatures. Leaves stretching out. Trees swinging .Whispering croaking,crowing,buzzing sounds .Darkness fading ,sun rising .A beautiful day is born,and l with it.My present chore is to type these  thoughts, for l know the words are from a purposeful place.”l am not a mistake !never was, never will be.”

I yield to The Universe.The Source will guide and provide for  me.There is much to do,my kind deeds are awaited,by another lost soul like l was.

an encounter with God, Self-Therapy, TrailBlazers Series, Uncategorized, unmaskedstories.

Follow Your Gaze

You have to follow the Gaze.You know what you want.Basically,we all want the Best for us.The Problem arises because we do not trust ourselves enough to think we have a solution. The Solution is not visible because we spend too much of our time and energy in Comparison Mode .This sucks up our energy from that which we can naturally resonate with.We get too distracted,lose confidence in and direction in the process. We reach confusion point, having an internal war from within.To cool it off we go into denial and slowly move into self-destructive habits. We have all been there in different ways.If this is you today,you do not have to stay there.Now is the hour to change!Make a conscious decision to seriously follow your gaze,online and offline, those or that ,which Builds You.Be Cautious of the time, money and energy spent in your interactions. It MUST Be for your Benefit first.This is the only way you can give others your Best because you are at Your Best.It is not always about finances ,or material things,it is All about what you do with what you have NOW! Feed your inner you with the Best for the Best reasons.

If you read to the End l know something ticked you,Go for it!Don’t question it!Follow your gaze!❤