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Appreciating “She-Roes”-Day 1:Elizabeth Horlemann

Today, l want to appreciate Elizabeth Horlemann.She is of Kenyan heritage,A Certified Cognitive Life coach ,A  Critical Whiteness Trainer :Race Think Workshops.She is also a Mentor to many of us ,in the Diaspora and specifically within the Kenya Women in Germany e.V.(NGO).The above caption says it all.In my Diaspora life in Germany ,since 1999, Elizabeth has played a significant role in modeling me to the woman l am becoming .A confident writer,authentic and brave in my rising career .This article my gift to her,my way of saying Thank You . Asante Sana .Danke Schön.

  • Her commitment to excellence in achieving set goals has brushed off on me .Over the years l have adapted to her teachings.
  • Her outstanding contributions to different phases in my life has had such a great impact in my life.I know Elizabeth you will be shocked to read this.You taught me  the beginnings in IT:Internet technology .Do you remember helping me set up Skype in your home?or ,showing this totally ignorant woman at the time ,how to set up strong passwords;the lower and the upper class e.t.c;and how to use the mouse without panicking and shooting all over the screen .(….am smiling )
  • I learnt about NGO´s.How to set up one and how they function. You gave me the first online platform adminstrative duties,introducing me to some powerful ladies and built my self-esteem.What did l do then? I chose the 3rd mode of human life when challenges come up ;FLIGHT!.I  removed myself,resigned  into isolation, self-pity, blame ,criticism and to self-destructive habits.
  • Elizabeth Horlemann has never given up on me.She has always reached out to me, in boxing letting me,and letting me know of new opportunities.As a cognitive coach in her professionalism  she has always seen in me potential ,pointed it out to me and challenged me to get out of fear and denial mode.
  • She has helped me get clarity for my emerging career by mentoring me ,on how to be self-sustainable ,shifting my creativity from words on paper  to to cash in my pocket.
  • Without any manipulative ideas ,in a positive way ,she has inspired me to get out of self-destructive habits.How?By letting me know that l am worthy,of value and l can use my natural talents of writing to self- create and coach others too .
  • Because of you,,Mrembo”,l am living consciously in the Present:I can change .I can achieve It!  It is Ok to Ask. I Listen to understand . ITake Action and avoid later.

“She-Roe”is  a hero power word coined by Cindy Trimm in her book” Commanding Your Morning”: (unleash the power of God in your life).This morning ,while journaling ,a daily habit,intuitively, l decided to re-read  this book .I did not get past  her dedication page.It is to her sisters whom she refers to as  her  heros.”She-Roes”. She mentions unconditional love,guidance and mentorship.The first heroine that came to mind was Elizabeth Horlemann.You deserve all three compliments.


Face book:Race Think Dinners or her main page:Elizabeth Horlemann.

Trust me:You need to get in touch with her !

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I Don`t Need Tolerance!From invisible to perfect

“TOLERANCE” has a hidden ,inferiority meaning; “PITY”. A tolerant attitude is not what l want when l am doing my job.I need recognition and to be credited for my work ,or discredited.Corrected if l have erred .Not so long ago ,there was a cry for  tolerance to the great influx of migrants seeking refuge for all the valid reasons into Europe.The migration continues, and will continue, because migration is as old as after creation day.It is not unique to Europe or America only.In fact every country on the globe has its share of migrants. To migrate is natural, an in born right for people to move from one continent to another:”Crossing borders in search of Dignity”.Dignity is the right to be heard,be seen, earn a living , pay taxes and live safely.Being human.Why is the term “tolerate” mean?It is a diminishing word by usage in reference to the expected treatment of migrants. Its implication is the newcomer has nothing to give ,but is there to be helped.Questions to reflect on:Does  not cultural diversity play a more positive role?Don`t both parties benefit?The attitude of tolerating has a degree of prejudice.(one is more superior,the helper) .The lesser is in larger terms not expected to add to the growth of the nation as a whole ,or the well being of others.Who decides what is perfect ? The word tolerance should be completely erased in our human interactions.Let us be more inclusive in the creation of our systems.I say again :”Do not tolerate me.Do not pity me.Let us embrace one another,exchange stories,allow travel or migration.”

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Follow Your Gaze

You have to follow the Gaze.You know what you want.Basically,we all want the Best for us.The Problem arises because we do not trust ourselves enough to think we have a solution. The Solution is not visible because we spend too much of our time and energy in Comparison Mode .This sucks up our energy from that which we can naturally resonate with.We get too distracted,lose confidence in and direction in the process. We reach confusion point, having an internal war from within.To cool it off we go into denial and slowly move into self-destructive habits. We have all been there in different ways.If this is you today,you do not have to stay there.Now is the hour to change!Make a conscious decision to seriously follow your gaze,online and offline, those or that ,which Builds You.Be Cautious of the time, money and energy spent in your interactions. It MUST Be for your Benefit first.This is the only way you can give others your Best because you are at Your Best.It is not always about finances ,or material things,it is All about what you do with what you have NOW! Feed your inner you with the Best for the Best reasons.

If you read to the End l know something ticked you,Go for it!Don’t question it!Follow your gaze!❤

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Thrive by Choice

Peace does not just happen! It comes as an intentional thought that precedes an action.Caring is sharing :Self-awareness tips.

•Find a quiet place ,for at least 5 minutes a day, to have a conversation with yourself.

•Breathe deep,slowly, in and out at least to a count of 7x

•Identify the dis- content with self by asking yourself questions:,”when did l start experiencing this unease ?one day,a week,a month ago?When exactly?Be specific.

3.Identify by Name….Ask yourself ;”Where was l?””Who was l with?” “What were we doing ?”and “What were we discussing?”

(chats /activities could have been offline or online in a group chat ,sms, video talk, meeting etc ).

The answers will be very helpful and allow us to see the why and what that triggered the emotion .Our well-being must be top priority,especially during these volatile times.We are social beings but this time be your own best friend in private conversation with you.

This exercise might end with worrying ,please remember:

If you feel like crying it is normal and it brings relief.Important is you take action. Do not dwell on the issue at great length.If it is draining your energy, please seek help . At no cost should you try to go at it alone ,for fear of shame or guilt.Many have travelled a similar path and are now free.

You are a child of dignity and this is the truth.This world needs you.You are worthy and valuable to mother Earth, our planet.Afresh!Anew Cheers!

Big Hug of Love