l l felt humiliated..sad….small.l had been left out , excluded, to join a certain chama – a women’s group in Europe .When l enquired from it’s main founder , a lady l considered a best friend ,she did not give me a straight answer and brushed me off by changing the subject .It was puzzling , but life had to continue within a hypocritical friendship.l labeled it ,,outsider ” and buried it in the caves of my wounds.Today ,l recalled this incident and l very happily thought to myself ; “Wow! ain’t l grateful!”l realized how far l how The Universe had saved me from a bad situation and indeed being excluded had turned out to be a plus for me.
In comparison, the,,insiders,, group had drifted in a very ugly breakup of petty talk ,fights and disclosure of closed group secrets .l realized too what a breach of trust meant .l also observed that sub-consciously l had become more discreet and quite reserved .l had also learnt another important life lesson of survival. “Saying No To Future Expectations of Others”.
“No expectations “meant being content with who l am ,and not looking for fulfillment from others.Another lesson learnt was in handling business matters .The criteria l use is “no personal strings attached .It has to be a win-win relationship”.
Exclusion could at times be for your benefit .Only time will tell!Most importantly is being aware of our actions and their effects .