The time to be empathic is here and now.Start today by opening your heart to the idea
What Are The Needs?
- The Majority of us are very Opinionionated.Many are shouting loudly and proudly.A few timidly play neutral ,contributing nothing ,and hoarding information.The other larg larger group are destroyers and hate speech and criticism about anything and everything is their creative style.None of these ways are what we need.
- We are a Hurting People.We are stressed out financially in debts or joblessness.Emotionally in unhealthy relationships.Physically ,having nothing to do ,or too much to do.There is greater need for people to be heard and helped.Empathy is the answer in the short term.
- Our Needs and Experiences Are Different.We are all living on the same planet,but in our work or lives we are dealing each with their own specific situation.As a community we need to pay more attention to specific issues about each need.
- The Future is uncertain.This is true now with the global pandemic.The social media and breaking news keeps everybody with a lot of speculations and heresay.This lack of uncertainty leads to stress,more struggles,worries,anxiety and fear,confirming there is a need for greater empathy.
What Can You Do Now?
Pick a part of yourself as a leader,team member,parent,spouse or sibling and start the following practices.
- RECOGNIZE THE NEED:look at the people around you,what is driving their need for your empathy?
- LISTEN MORE:Listen much more effectively ,consciously and consistently.Instead of feeling guilty ,just start today!
- STOP ASSUMING AND START ASKING:-When we assume we know how people feel or what they are thinking,we do not then ask.The empathic relationship building begins by asking.(…and it is not about proving assumptions right anyway.
- ACKNOWLEDGE ;DO NOT JUDGE:-None of that matters.Sincere empathy comes from us understanding where the other person is at that point in time.Judgement has no place in the equation.Period!Do not even try to solve anything for them….at least not yet.FOCUS on letting them know they have been HEARD.
- GRANT PEOPLE GRACE:-
- You have recognized their stress,struggle,worry,grant them grace.
- Since you know what they are dealing with you can make more sense of their behaviors,results and decisions.
- Now is your chance to grant some grace ,be patient and understanding.
- You are not lowering your standards at all.Only for today a different approach is needed or appreciated.
- THIS IS EMPATHY IN ACTION:
- FOCUS ON FEELING:-Our tendency is usually to be tactical and efficient
- .Our conversations are usually around goals and tasks.
- To overcome try starting by talking .Discuss how people are doing;their Thoughts and Feelings.
- This change will bring you a chance to have better,more empathic conversations .
- The chats will in turn create more opportunities to apply the other ideas above.
- Let it become a normal relationship process wherever you are called to lead
Think About It For A Moment.
The Need for Empathy Is So Evident Here and Now.
(Gratitude to Article & Power points notes from The Age of Empathy
by Kevin Eikenberry.)