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Be Empathic :Here & Now

The time to be empathic is here and now.Start today by opening your heart to the idea

What Are The Needs?

  • The Majority of us are very Opinionionated.Many are shouting loudly and proudly.A few timidly play neutral ,contributing nothing ,and hoarding information.The other larg larger group are destroyers and hate speech and criticism about anything and everything is their creative style.None of these ways are what we need.
  • We are a Hurting People.We are stressed out financially in debts or joblessness.Emotionally in unhealthy relationships.Physically ,having nothing to do ,or too much to do.There is  greater need for people to be heard and helped.Empathy is the answer in the short term.
  • Our Needs and Experiences Are Different.We are all living on the  same planet,but in our work or lives we are dealing each with their own specific situation.As a community we need to pay more attention to specific issues about each need.
  • The Future is uncertain.This is true now with the global pandemic.The social media and breaking news keeps everybody with a lot of speculations and heresay.This lack of uncertainty leads to stress,more struggles,worries,anxiety and fear,confirming there is a need for greater empathy.

What Can You Do Now?

Pick a part of yourself as a leader,team member,parent,spouse or sibling and start the following practices.

  • RECOGNIZE THE NEED:look at the people around you,what is driving their need for your empathy?
  • LISTEN MORE:Listen much more effectively ,consciously and consistently.Instead of feeling guilty ,just start today!
  • STOP ASSUMING AND START ASKING:-When we assume we know how people feel or what they are thinking,we do not then ask.The empathic relationship building begins by  asking.(…and it is not about proving assumptions right anyway.
  • ACKNOWLEDGE ;DO NOT JUDGE:-None of that matters.Sincere empathy comes from us understanding where the other person is at that point in time.Judgement has no place in the equation.Period!Do not even try to solve anything for them….at least not yet.FOCUS on letting them know they have been HEARD.
  • GRANT PEOPLE GRACE:-
  • You have recognized their stress,struggle,worry,grant them grace.
  • Since you know what they are dealing with you can make more sense of their behaviors,results  and decisions.
  • Now is your chance to grant some grace ,be patient and understanding.
  • You are not lowering your standards at all.Only for today a different approach is needed or appreciated.
  • THIS IS EMPATHY IN ACTION:
  • FOCUS ON FEELING:-Our tendency is usually to be tactical and efficient
  • .Our conversations are usually around goals and tasks.
  • To overcome try starting by talking .Discuss how people are doing;their Thoughts and Feelings.
  • This change will bring you a chance to have better,more empathic conversations .
  • The chats will in turn create more opportunities to apply the other ideas above.
  • Let it become a normal relationship process wherever you are called to lead

Think About It For A Moment.

The Need for Empathy Is So Evident Here and Now.

 

(Gratitude to  Article & Power points notes from The Age of Empathy

by Kevin Eikenberry.)

 

 

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Understanding Who am l?

There is a big difference between Knowing and Accepting. It has taken me years and many hours  of questioning myself

“Who am l?”.

Today,l woke up resolved to solving this imbalance. The first wave were prodding questions:What is bothering me? Why do l judge myself so harshly? Why can l not be enough ?Why do l treat myself in such an unloving manner?Why do l over-think?Why am l drawn to other people`s schedules? Is it possible for me to set my specific-to-me menu, a plan so l can be at my best at any given moment ?

Suddenly it was clear.Dawn broke for me.I made up my mind there and then to start living by my own rules. To move in this space called the Earth grateful to The Most High .The answer was clear.I was created whole but l have sub-divided myself.I have been my worst own enemy ,and l agree.All this questions were self-created problems,for l have the answer in the very life l am.

“Who am l?”l am here enough !I am here,no less than enough ! A child of The Universe. In the here , now, and Something or someone awaits  for my love and careful attention.I am in tune with the vortex of my vibration, and the positive energy in everything there is.The key turned,the door just opened wide, the  pathway is lit, and every present  moment is valid.

Yes,this is it! The knowing .The living ,breathing ,appreciating , listening and hearing every sound this wonderful moment.The slight breeze,sounds from the small unseen creatures. Leaves stretching out. Trees swinging .Whispering croaking,crowing,buzzing sounds .Darkness fading ,sun rising .A beautiful day is born,and l with it.My present chore is to type these  thoughts, for l know the words are from a purposeful place.”l am not a mistake !never was, never will be.”

I yield to The Universe.The Source will guide and provide for  me.There is much to do,my kind deeds are awaited,by another lost soul like l was.

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A Visible Purposed Migrant.

Still invisible?Stop living this way.You were born for a purpose.You had to migrate from your mother’s womb into the world and for a reason.This world needs your product or service .Maybe you are asking ;how can l know if l am living my purpose?You will know you are on the right path by the amount of time,energy and money you invest into the research and creation of your product or service. Another criteria will be in the courage and effort you make to share and bring it into the world.   Reflecting on the following will help you:

  • Did l step on anybody’s toes to get to where l am?
  • Am l still living in fear and doubting my natural,in born  capabilities?
  • Am l doing my best to serve the demand out there?
  • Will l accept to be mentored by those one step ahead of me?
  • Am l genuine enough to say ,,l don’t know”when l don’t?
  • Am l humane to say,,l am sorry “when l have erred?
  • Am l brave and creative to do the right thing despite life’s unknown obstacles?

These are all sure signs of maturity. They are steps towards achieving fulfillment in life. Be wise enough to take time to rest and enjoy by joining others  in healthy recreations.Do not forget your identity;you are”unique and valuable” so give all to this world.,,Stop hoarding it!”

Read to the end .”Thank you for your precious time and a lovely day to you ”

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The Invisible Migrant-(tiny steps)

The Invisible Migrant is a Migrant who has decided to keep low,not voice their thoughts except to ask for assistance and this is a natural gift  for safety’s sake. While finding one’s way in a new, environment one soon comes face to face with the reality that the expectations of a warm welcome are nowhere close to the truth.Dreams squashed as expressing yourself is halted.Language is a big barrier in a foreign land like Germany.You must learn how to communicate and nobody has patience with sign language .Making new friends is not the same like in Africa,in a country where people mind their own business a lot and have no tolerance for wasting their time.One must gather up all their stored time,energy resilience,combined with a strong desire to survive and thrive .Many do make it ,but not all.

Advise to any new comer:

*Nothing remains the same forever.Therefore do not give up,Trust you will come through victorious

*You MUST do your part.Be punctual for any and all appointments.

*Always ask if you are not sure of the Time.Ask where and what you are required to fill and bring along at your next meeting,class etc.

*Never sign anything you are not sure about.Ask for a translator or you bring a friend who speaks and understands the language well.Note:Claiming you were coerced or did not   understand, etc are excuses and not tolerated.

-Ask and Listen.

-Ask and Listen

*Attend as many Free online and offline voluntary language classes as possible.Check on social media,google,ask here….etc but be involved.

*interact with others not only those from your home country or continent.Join clubs e.g book ,football, photography, jogging, climbing etc groups.

My story :

I am a Kenyan ,and arrived in Germany when the internet was not the norm. Word of mouth was the way to get around.As a Migrant my information was from fellow migrants, from my home country.That’s the way it was then to a large extent,but it was not the Best or only Way.”No excuses! l could have done it differently ,the right way.”The reason l am giving these Tips.

*Caution:Use your time wisely

*Remember and Don’t never Forget.Only your effort will get you many steps ahead  of your peers.Don’t give up on you.There are many people,native Germans out there willing to assist even if it is one step,but you have to make time and show a willingness to learn

“Manenos are different kwa ground”,translated; Things are different on the ground”

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Follow Your Gaze

You have to follow the Gaze.You know what you want.Basically,we all want the Best for us.The Problem arises because we do not trust ourselves enough to think we have a solution. The Solution is not visible because we spend too much of our time and energy in Comparison Mode .This sucks up our energy from that which we can naturally resonate with.We get too distracted,lose confidence in and direction in the process. We reach confusion point, having an internal war from within.To cool it off we go into denial and slowly move into self-destructive habits. We have all been there in different ways.If this is you today,you do not have to stay there.Now is the hour to change!Make a conscious decision to seriously follow your gaze,online and offline, those or that ,which Builds You.Be Cautious of the time, money and energy spent in your interactions. It MUST Be for your Benefit first.This is the only way you can give others your Best because you are at Your Best.It is not always about finances ,or material things,it is All about what you do with what you have NOW! Feed your inner you with the Best for the Best reasons.

If you read to the End l know something ticked you,Go for it!Don’t question it!Follow your gaze!❤