an encounter with God, Invisible Migrants, TrailBlazers Series

Appreciating “She-Roes”-Day 1:Elizabeth Horlemann

Today, l want to appreciate Elizabeth Horlemann.She is of Kenyan heritage,A Certified Cognitive Life coach ,A  Critical Whiteness Trainer :Race Think Workshops.She is also a Mentor to many of us ,in the Diaspora and specifically within the Kenya Women in Germany e.V.(NGO).The above caption says it all.In my Diaspora life in Germany ,since 1999, Elizabeth has played a significant role in modeling me to the woman l am becoming .A confident writer,authentic and brave in my rising career .This article my gift to her,my way of saying Thank You . Asante Sana .Danke Schön.

  • Her commitment to excellence in achieving set goals has brushed off on me .Over the years l have adapted to her teachings.
  • Her outstanding contributions to different phases in my life has had such a great impact in my life.I know Elizabeth you will be shocked to read this.You taught me  the beginnings in IT:Internet technology .Do you remember helping me set up Skype in your home?or ,showing this totally ignorant woman at the time ,how to set up strong passwords;the lower and the upper class e.t.c;and how to use the mouse without panicking and shooting all over the screen .(….am smiling )
  • I learnt about NGO´s.How to set up one and how they function. You gave me the first online platform adminstrative duties,introducing me to some powerful ladies and built my self-esteem.What did l do then? I chose the 3rd mode of human life when challenges come up ;FLIGHT!.I  removed myself,resigned  into isolation, self-pity, blame ,criticism and to self-destructive habits.
  • Elizabeth Horlemann has never given up on me.She has always reached out to me, in boxing letting me,and letting me know of new opportunities.As a cognitive coach in her professionalism  she has always seen in me potential ,pointed it out to me and challenged me to get out of fear and denial mode.
  • She has helped me get clarity for my emerging career by mentoring me ,on how to be self-sustainable ,shifting my creativity from words on paper  to to cash in my pocket.
  • Without any manipulative ideas ,in a positive way ,she has inspired me to get out of self-destructive habits.How?By letting me know that l am worthy,of value and l can use my natural talents of writing to self- create and coach others too .
  • Because of you,,Mrembo”,l am living consciously in the Present:I can change .I can achieve It!  It is Ok to Ask. I Listen to understand . ITake Action and avoid later.

“She-Roe”is  a hero power word coined by Cindy Trimm in her book” Commanding Your Morning”: (unleash the power of God in your life).This morning ,while journaling ,a daily habit,intuitively, l decided to re-read  this book .I did not get past  her dedication page.It is to her sisters whom she refers to as  her  heros.”She-Roes”. She mentions unconditional love,guidance and mentorship.The first heroine that came to mind was Elizabeth Horlemann.You deserve all three compliments.

Website:http//horlemann-elizabeth.com

Face book:Race Think Dinners or her main page:Elizabeth Horlemann.

Trust me:You need to get in touch with her !

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A life cause from a loss.

Every day is an exceptional day .All our lives are  neither stagnant nor separated.We are in motion , constantly in the process of Birthing -Living-Creating-Dying and then Re-birthing ,from generation to generation.  Life is also creative in it’s duality as we at times experience periods of severe trials  ,mild challenges and other unforseen obstacles.On other occassions, we  celebrate with music, song and dance, innovate and  achieve our goals.This last week was exceptionally sad for most of my friends , having lost two loved ones. It brought back sweet,sad memories of my late mother Grace Nduta Gathea (+1981) .May all those gone before us continue to rest in eternal peace. As l prayed ,l was reminded that loss can become more bearable if we can take moments to reflect on how abundantly they served on earth.Their smiles,love and helpful attitudes can give us  more clarity.If we stop,listen, open our eyes and hearts,we will be able to see where we can contribute to finish  the work they left behind.There is more than enough awaiting all of us to act upon and share.My mother’s legacy motivates me to bring awareness about  the tyrannical menace of domestic violence and abuse.This is a global crisis that has not been given enough recognition.l know it requires courage but it is possible with strength from The Divine. Crisis:Homes are the first earthly ground for all toddlers.Unless we accept and act on the fact that most witnesses to domestic violence are innocent toddlers and children ,we will never know peace as adults. Moving in life as a child witness,adult victim of this oppression l am determined to give it my all as a legacy gift to my mother who underwent so much domestic violence despite the outward courage she portrayed.It destroyed her in the end.

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an encounter with God, Invisible Migrants, unmasking domestic violence

Checking on You

“Hello!How Are You Doing Today ? Are You Safe ? How Are You Feeling Today ?
I felt an urge to say hello.I need to share some parts of my story you probably do not know.You see my dear friend,l know what it means to be scared,lonely,feel helpless and have no hope at all.You are not alone,and your story doesn`t end here…..your life continues,breaking out into blissfulness.Trust so it will be.

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an encounter with God, Invisible Migrants, Self-Therapy, Uncategorized, unmasking domestic violence

Be Empathic :Here & Now

The time to be empathic is here and now.Start today by opening your heart to the idea

What Are The Needs?

  • The Majority of us are very Opinionionated.Many are shouting loudly and proudly.A few timidly play neutral ,contributing nothing ,and hoarding information.The other larg larger group are destroyers and hate speech and criticism about anything and everything is their creative style.None of these ways are what we need.
  • We are a Hurting People.We are stressed out financially in debts or joblessness.Emotionally in unhealthy relationships.Physically ,having nothing to do ,or too much to do.There is  greater need for people to be heard and helped.Empathy is the answer in the short term.
  • Our Needs and Experiences Are Different.We are all living on the  same planet,but in our work or lives we are dealing each with their own specific situation.As a community we need to pay more attention to specific issues about each need.
  • The Future is uncertain.This is true now with the global pandemic.The social media and breaking news keeps everybody with a lot of speculations and heresay.This lack of uncertainty leads to stress,more struggles,worries,anxiety and fear,confirming there is a need for greater empathy.

What Can You Do Now?

Pick a part of yourself as a leader,team member,parent,spouse or sibling and start the following practices.

  • RECOGNIZE THE NEED:look at the people around you,what is driving their need for your empathy?
  • LISTEN MORE:Listen much more effectively ,consciously and consistently.Instead of feeling guilty ,just start today!
  • STOP ASSUMING AND START ASKING:-When we assume we know how people feel or what they are thinking,we do not then ask.The empathic relationship building begins by  asking.(…and it is not about proving assumptions right anyway.
  • ACKNOWLEDGE ;DO NOT JUDGE:-None of that matters.Sincere empathy comes from us understanding where the other person is at that point in time.Judgement has no place in the equation.Period!Do not even try to solve anything for them….at least not yet.FOCUS on letting them know they have been HEARD.
  • GRANT PEOPLE GRACE:-
  • You have recognized their stress,struggle,worry,grant them grace.
  • Since you know what they are dealing with you can make more sense of their behaviors,results  and decisions.
  • Now is your chance to grant some grace ,be patient and understanding.
  • You are not lowering your standards at all.Only for today a different approach is needed or appreciated.
  • THIS IS EMPATHY IN ACTION:
  • FOCUS ON FEELING:-Our tendency is usually to be tactical and efficient
  • .Our conversations are usually around goals and tasks.
  • To overcome try starting by talking .Discuss how people are doing;their Thoughts and Feelings.
  • This change will bring you a chance to have better,more empathic conversations .
  • The chats will in turn create more opportunities to apply the other ideas above.
  • Let it become a normal relationship process wherever you are called to lead

Think About It For A Moment.

The Need for Empathy Is So Evident Here and Now.

 

(Gratitude to  Article & Power points notes from The Age of Empathy

by Kevin Eikenberry.)

 

 

an encounter with God, Self-Therapy, The Unheard/Unseen, Uncategorized

Understanding Who am l?

There is a big difference between Knowing and Accepting. It has taken me years and many hours  of questioning myself

“Who am l?”.

Today,l woke up resolved to solving this imbalance. The first wave were prodding questions:What is bothering me? Why do l judge myself so harshly? Why can l not be enough ?Why do l treat myself in such an unloving manner?Why do l over-think?Why am l drawn to other people`s schedules? Is it possible for me to set my specific-to-me menu, a plan so l can be at my best at any given moment ?

Suddenly it was clear.Dawn broke for me.I made up my mind there and then to start living by my own rules. To move in this space called the Earth grateful to The Most High .The answer was clear.I was created whole but l have sub-divided myself.I have been my worst own enemy ,and l agree.All this questions were self-created problems,for l have the answer in the very life l am.

“Who am l?”l am here enough !I am here,no less than enough ! A child of The Universe. In the here , now, and Something or someone awaits  for my love and careful attention.I am in tune with the vortex of my vibration, and the positive energy in everything there is.The key turned,the door just opened wide, the  pathway is lit, and every present  moment is valid.

Yes,this is it! The knowing .The living ,breathing ,appreciating , listening and hearing every sound this wonderful moment.The slight breeze,sounds from the small unseen creatures. Leaves stretching out. Trees swinging .Whispering croaking,crowing,buzzing sounds .Darkness fading ,sun rising .A beautiful day is born,and l with it.My present chore is to type these  thoughts, for l know the words are from a purposeful place.”l am not a mistake !never was, never will be.”

I yield to The Universe.The Source will guide and provide for  me.There is much to do,my kind deeds are awaited,by another lost soul like l was.