A life cause from a loss.

Every day is an exceptional day .All our lives are  neither stagnant nor separated.We are in motion , constantly in the process of Birthing -Living-Creating-Dying and then Re-birthing ,from generation to generation.  Life is also creative in it’s duality as we at times experience periods of severe trials  ,mild challenges and other unforseen obstacles.On other occassions, we  celebrate with music, song and dance, innovate and  achieve our goals.This last week was exceptionally sad for most of my friends , having lost two loved ones. It brought back sweet,sad memories of my late mother Grace Nduta Gathea (+1981) .May all those gone before us continue to rest in eternal peace. As l prayed ,l was reminded that loss can become more bearable if we can take moments to reflect on how abundantly they served on earth.Their smiles,love and helpful attitudes can give us  more clarity.If we stop,listen, open our eyes and hearts,we will be able to see where we can contribute to finish  the work they left behind.There is more than enough awaiting all of us to act upon and share.My mother’s legacy motivates me to bring awareness about  the tyrannical menace of domestic violence and abuse.This is a global crisis that has not been given enough recognition.l know it requires courage but it is possible with strength from The Divine. Crisis:Homes are the first earthly ground for all toddlers.Unless we accept and act on the fact that most witnesses to domestic violence are innocent toddlers and children ,we will never know peace as adults. Moving in life as a child witness,adult victim of this oppression l am determined to give it my all as a legacy gift to my mother who underwent so much domestic violence despite the outward courage she portrayed.It destroyed her in the end.

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an encounter with God, Invisible Migrants, unmasking domestic violence

Checking on You

“Hello!How Are You Doing Today ? Are You Safe ? How Are You Feeling Today ?
I felt an urge to say hello.I need to share some parts of my story you probably do not know.You see my dear friend,l know what it means to be scared,lonely,feel helpless and have no hope at all.You are not alone,and your story doesn`t end here…..your life continues,breaking out into blissfulness.Trust so it will be.

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an encounter with God, Invisible Migrants, unmasking domestic violence

An Awakened Mind

When they tell you to take a left ,say no, not me!

When they suggest, take a right ,say no, not me!

Tell them without fear of rejection,

“I am  Woke”.

I neither obey,nor disobey man or woman,

there is a clarity in my mission.

I walk a visionary path guided  by Truth .

Clean your mind to be as clear as  a blue sky,

with thoughts  unclouded by doubts,

undistracted by wants of  undefined plenty,

through meditation ,prayer and melodies.

Allow your  inner being to be illuminated by

The Presence.The Word.The Holy Light,

shinning whenever , at the end of the tunnel.

Move along  confidence path  ,say, Yes to yes and No to no .

Discard  insecurities, debts, maybe`s or over-consultations.

Life is active, exciting and your perception is its reality.

See infinite opportunities and roles in co-creativity.

Refute the stagnant labels,and be refilled by the beauty of

diversity in the galaxies of cultures and languages.

Models uniquely created  to lead  lives of purposed  joy.

Do not ask for alms ,instead work, explore ,learn , develop and share.

Without prejudice nor unruly pride, stand tall, full of self-esteem.

Consciously, choose your thoughts , your daily bread.

Permit  nothing , nor anyone, to diminish you .

Be present, observe with interest and discern through intuition.

Through  a mindfulness of We and not I ,battles  are conquered.

Trials and tribulations are a part of life,adding up to a multitude

of possibilities.

Avoid blame , by recalling ,you are the co-creator of your destined path .

A Big  Hug of Love to You.


an encounter with God, Invisible Migrants, Self-Therapy, Uncategorized, unmasking domestic violence

Be Empathic :Here & Now

The time to be empathic is here and now.Start today by opening your heart to the idea

What Are The Needs?

  • The Majority of us are very Opinionionated.Many are shouting loudly and proudly.A few timidly play neutral ,contributing nothing ,and hoarding information.The other larg larger group are destroyers and hate speech and criticism about anything and everything is their creative style.None of these ways are what we need.
  • We are a Hurting People.We are stressed out financially in debts or joblessness.Emotionally in unhealthy relationships.Physically ,having nothing to do ,or too much to do.There is  greater need for people to be heard and helped.Empathy is the answer in the short term.
  • Our Needs and Experiences Are Different.We are all living on the  same planet,but in our work or lives we are dealing each with their own specific situation.As a community we need to pay more attention to specific issues about each need.
  • The Future is uncertain.This is true now with the global pandemic.The social media and breaking news keeps everybody with a lot of speculations and heresay.This lack of uncertainty leads to stress,more struggles,worries,anxiety and fear,confirming there is a need for greater empathy.

What Can You Do Now?

Pick a part of yourself as a leader,team member,parent,spouse or sibling and start the following practices.

  • RECOGNIZE THE NEED:look at the people around you,what is driving their need for your empathy?
  • LISTEN MORE:Listen much more effectively ,consciously and consistently.Instead of feeling guilty ,just start today!
  • STOP ASSUMING AND START ASKING:-When we assume we know how people feel or what they are thinking,we do not then ask.The empathic relationship building begins by  asking.(…and it is not about proving assumptions right anyway.
  • ACKNOWLEDGE ;DO NOT JUDGE:-None of that matters.Sincere empathy comes from us understanding where the other person is at that point in time.Judgement has no place in the equation.Period!Do not even try to solve anything for them….at least not yet.FOCUS on letting them know they have been HEARD.
  • You have recognized their stress,struggle,worry,grant them grace.
  • Since you know what they are dealing with you can make more sense of their behaviors,results  and decisions.
  • Now is your chance to grant some grace ,be patient and understanding.
  • You are not lowering your standards at all.Only for today a different approach is needed or appreciated.
  • FOCUS ON FEELING:-Our tendency is usually to be tactical and efficient
  • .Our conversations are usually around goals and tasks.
  • To overcome try starting by talking .Discuss how people are doing;their Thoughts and Feelings.
  • This change will bring you a chance to have better,more empathic conversations .
  • The chats will in turn create more opportunities to apply the other ideas above.
  • Let it become a normal relationship process wherever you are called to lead

Think About It For A Moment.

The Need for Empathy Is So Evident Here and Now.


(Gratitude to  Article & Power points notes from The Age of Empathy

by Kevin Eikenberry.)



an encounter with God, Self-Therapy, The Unheard/Unseen, Uncategorized

Understanding Who am l?

There is a big difference between Knowing and Accepting. It has taken me years and many hours  of questioning myself

“Who am l?”.

Today,l woke up resolved to solving this imbalance. The first wave were prodding questions:What is bothering me? Why do l judge myself so harshly? Why can l not be enough ?Why do l treat myself in such an unloving manner?Why do l over-think?Why am l drawn to other people`s schedules? Is it possible for me to set my specific-to-me menu, a plan so l can be at my best at any given moment ?

Suddenly it was clear.Dawn broke for me.I made up my mind there and then to start living by my own rules. To move in this space called the Earth grateful to The Most High .The answer was clear.I was created whole but l have sub-divided myself.I have been my worst own enemy ,and l agree.All this questions were self-created problems,for l have the answer in the very life l am.

“Who am l?”l am here enough !I am here,no less than enough ! A child of The Universe. In the here , now, and Something or someone awaits  for my love and careful attention.I am in tune with the vortex of my vibration, and the positive energy in everything there is.The key turned,the door just opened wide, the  pathway is lit, and every present  moment is valid.

Yes,this is it! The knowing .The living ,breathing ,appreciating , listening and hearing every sound this wonderful moment.The slight breeze,sounds from the small unseen creatures. Leaves stretching out. Trees swinging .Whispering croaking,crowing,buzzing sounds .Darkness fading ,sun rising .A beautiful day is born,and l with it.My present chore is to type these  thoughts, for l know the words are from a purposeful place.”l am not a mistake !never was, never will be.”

I yield to The Universe.The Source will guide and provide for  me.There is much to do,my kind deeds are awaited,by another lost soul like l was.