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When is a Hurt for Real?

  • Some HURTS are really like for Real! HURTS  that won`t go away and you hear :”I am looking forward to the day I can leave all this HURT behind” Hurts where forgiveness is not an option and there is a lot of pain and injury to the heart.“Hurt Feelings!“.Hurt feelings are almost impossible to get rid of .WHY? I identified a lack of LISTENING to another person as a major cause, when a person feels they are not being heard..When one party  feels constantly intimidated,fearful and inferior to another .When that person`s individuality and identity has being exploited ,violated by another .When  an invasion into the  space of another takes place by using a  superiority complex attitude. Most people say words like ,he or she  “looks down on me” or “thinks I am stupid!”.When such thoughts linger in  one`s mind , healing can be achieved by hearing the other person out.Allowing the hurt feelings  to be expressed , and showing an  attitude of understanding and maybe an inevitable apology .This can in most cases bring about a reconcilliation.During my research ,I encountered  Dr Donna Hick and her model of dignity: that reconcilliation at any level can only come through an acceptance of the other person`s identity.I go further to point out that this identity is the thought that no one is superior to another.She states;”We all have an inherent,right to worth and value”.I too believe we were naturally born as loving and caring and we should stick to  this nurturing attitude in order to have healthy relationships : be it as parents,siblings,partners,community residents,co-workers ,students or persons co-habiting a space like inside a bus or supermarket.

The pains of the heart are the worst pains as compared to physical injuries which can in most cases be healed by medicines and other forms of therapy.But “HURT FEELINGS” go deep ,because they are usually caused by words .WORDS go deep and travel far ,weakening the bones through lack of immobility, internal organs are damaged through toxicity from harmful substances inhaled,drank or eaten.Self-confidence and Self-esteem escape and a lack of interest to interact, for food or sex and vital activities ensues.This state is what  we generally know as Depression.What can we do to avoid violating the dignity of another?Hurting each other?.

  • We  can learn to Listen more in order to hear those unspoken thoughts.
  • We can learn to be Humane in our Actions by caring and sharing:being my brother`s/sister`s keeper
  • We can learn to appreciate the work of others and acknowledge good work by giving credit where it is due.
  • We can learn the art of giving others the benefit of doubt by giving them a chance:second and third  to prove themselves through patience and teaching.
  • We can learn to help ;be another`s shield and defender.
  • We can start to value each others individual ,unique,God given,super DNA.
  • We can recognise in all that Dignity is our DNA .
  • We can embrace and celebrate our diversity regardless of race,religious affiliations,age,countries of heritage , physical outlooks ,cultural, and traditional backgrounds.
  • Iets learn to Hug more,Love more,Pray for one another and above All embrace The Most High for direction and providence and our Oneness.

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